Initiating a conversation…asking someone out…committing to a relationship…These are all situations that scare a lot of people. Maybe it’s just me, but have you ever noticed how afraid our society has become of failure? Sometimes I wonder if it has always been this way, and I’m just starting to realize it now. I don’t blame anyone for being scared about taking the next step, but, honestly, is that any way to live life?
This doesn’t just apply to dating though. We’re afraid of anything! We’re afraid to switch careers because we’re comfortable, not happy, with our current situation. We’re afraid to change our college major again and again and again until we get it right. We’re afraid to admit that we’re wrong to the people around us and to ourselves. We’re afraid to move away from our family and our friends. Sometimes we’re worried about making these changes because of the impact it could have on our stability. Other times, we fear that it could harm our reputation.
I feel like too many people look at life like the final draft of a paper rather than a work in progress. Sure, a final draft looks nice and clean, but I can almost guarantee that none of the best writers in history sat down and wrote a literary work without a single revision. By the end of the editing process there’s going to be cross outs and inserts. The ink might not match and there are probably a few smudges. But when you finally get around to reading that finished piece, it will sound so much better than the first draft.
What I’m trying to say is that you shouldn’t be afraid to take chances. When it comes to dating, I’m sure that the majority of us would have liked it if our first relationship could have been our only relationship. Just think of all the time and effort that could have been saved. However, life rarely works this way. Sometimes you have to kiss 5 people…10 people…50 people before you finally understand love. And you know what, that’s ok! We all have to figure it out on our own. What works for one person isn’t necessarily going to be the case for another.
So, the next time you’re scared to initiate a conversation, ask someone out, commit to a relationship, or something else life throws your way, don’t be afraid to seize the moment. You can’t succeed if you never try, and you can’t learn if you don’t make mistakes. The greatest men and women are often the ones willing to persevere and take chances. Just look at Thomas Edison for instance. As he would put it, he didn’t fail, he just found 10,000 ways that didn’t work.
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