Please don’t take this the wrong way. I absolutely love Disney! In fact, you might even consider me a bit of a Disney fanatic. However, I feel that it is necessary to point out that Disney has missed out on a great opportunity. It’s really not the company’s fault though. This is a trend that has been popular amongst romance novels and movies alike for years, and I’m here to tell you that it has to stop!
So, what exactly am I making a fuss about? Well, let’s take a look at a few popular film titles from this genre. We have Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin, Snow White, Hercules, and Tarzan just to name a few. Each film includes enchanting animations, ethical messages, and addicting soundtracks. I have no problem with any of these elements; however, I’m not completely excited about Disney’s choice in timeline. Have you ever noticed that almost every movie focused on a love interest begins when the couple meets and ends with the traditional wedding scene…
“and they all lived happily ever after”
But what happens after “happily ever after?” Why is the excitement, spontaneity, and passion only highlighted in these moments? As a society that romanticizes the first sparks of relationships, I feel that it would have made an even greater impact on audiences if the animators had diversified their timelines. This way, Disney would be able to emphasize the importance of every relationship facet.
So, why is this important? Divorce rates have skyrocketed over the last few years, which means that more and more children are growing up without the visual image of a healthy relationship. Seeing as Disney has impacted the life of almost every child in America, the company has a chance to educate adolescence on these important life lessons.
Maybe this theory is a little bit out there and a tad radical, but I do have a relevant point to make. Through one way or another, our society has become one that focuses on all the initial events in a relationship that lead up to the “final” event, marriage. The start of a new relationship is exciting, but there is no need to put it on a pedestal. By doing so, we forget about the “happily ever after” journey. If we put in just as much energy, time, and effort into every aspect, we’re more likely to find a truly happy ending and still have fun along the way.
I think that many of us forget that marriage isn’t the end of dating, but a promise to never stop dating. It doesn’t mean that all of your problems will be solved or that you will never face another challenge. It doesn’t mean that there will never be another fight or that hard times won’t come your way. All of these things are likely to occur at least once, but it’s not about avoiding every catastrophe. It’s about growing together, building intimacy, and falling more in love every day. After all, if we didn’t have the hard times, how could we ever appreciate the good times.
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